“I don’t like wasting my time or getting my heart broken, so I think it’s a self-defense thing to almost always tell the guy on the first date,” she explains.“If they want to cut and run, I haven’t invested too much of myself in it.”But in the future, she thinks she’ll take her time disclosing as long as she gets it done before engaging in sexual activities that would put the other person at risk.In this day and age, focus on these nice CHARACTER QUALITIES rather than the little virus. But also go do some searches on Google and start learning about this virus. Your love will be more powerful and more meaningful. This dramatically reduces the chances of transmission. TELL THEM YOU ADMIRE their CHARACTER for telling you this. Dating someone with herpes is simply like dating someone with cold sores (which is oral herpes). They both say it can be nerve-racking, but a few things help: sitting the person down in a place that’s comfortable for them, trying not to be too emotional, starting off with something like, “Hey, there’s something I need to talk to you about,” and bringing a wealth of knowledge to the conversation.“I always try to be calm and not too clinical but explain that I have done the research,” Carlson says.
It takes a lot of courage for your partner to admit they have herpes to you. Then go home and think about herpes and your relationship for a couple of days. Now, you'll have to decide whether to stay with and continue dating someone with herpes.
“I mostly thought, ‘I’m going to die alone, no one’s going to date me ever again,” she tells SELF.
Although herpes is one of the most prevalent sexually transmitted diseases, it’s shrouded in stigma.
Or maybe you've learned the hard way by discovering those strange blisters around their mouth or in their "private parts".
Genital herpes has a huge social stigma, and your partner is probably very embarrassed about it, and you're worrying about it.
To top it all off, she also tells them they don’t have to make a decision about whether to continue seeing her—or even respond—right away. But I usually peace out so they have their space to chew on it,” she says.